But in time, I learned that I couldn't win on my own, and that God was calling me to connect and be accountable with others.
That was the elusive secret to winning that I kept missing because, as we men often do, I was trying to do it all by myself!
It was only when I got in a consistent accountability group (I had to pay money for it, and it was with people I didn't know nor looked like me) that I finally was able to overcome pornography, revitalize my marriage, realize my need to be more present with my children, and gain a clear conscience that took my spiritual life to another level.